Printable Yes/No/Maybe List
71 activities across 8 categories. Print it out, fill it in separately, and compare results with your partner. No email required, no strings attached.
Updated February 2026 · 71 activities · 8 categories
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What is a printable yes/no/maybe list?
A yes/no/maybe list is a structured communication tool for couples. It contains a list of intimate activities, and each partner independently marks each one as Yes (enthusiastic interest), Maybe (curious but uncertain), or No (hard boundary). When both partners have finished, they compare results to find mutual interests while respecting each other's limits.
The printable version is ideal for couples who prefer pen and paper, want to fill it out away from screens, or simply enjoy the tactile experience of physically circling their answers. Many therapists and relationship counselors recommend printed versions because the act of writing engages a different part of your brain than clicking buttons on a screen.
Our checklist includes 71 carefully curated activities across 8 categories, ranging from gentle and romantic to more adventurous. Each activity includes a brief description so both partners understand exactly what's being discussed. Safety notes are included where relevant.
How to use your printed checklist
Print two copies
Click the "Download PDF" button above, then print two copies — one for each partner. Use the browser's print function (Ctrl+P or Cmd+P) for the best results.
Fill it out separately
Each partner takes their copy to a private space and goes through the list independently. Don't discuss answers while filling it out — the value comes from honest, unpressured responses.
Compare results together
Set aside a relaxed evening — maybe with a glass of wine or tea. Go through the list category by category, sharing your answers. Focus on where you both said Yes or Maybe — those are your areas of mutual interest.
Discuss the 'Maybe' zone
The most interesting conversations happen in the Maybe zone. Ask each other: "What would make this a Yes for you?" or "What concerns do you have?" This is where understanding deepens.
Revisit in 3-6 months
Boundaries and interests evolve over time. Schedule a regular check-in to go through the list again. You may be surprised how your answers change as trust grows.
Paper vs. digital: which is better?
Both formats have their strengths. Here's a quick comparison to help you decide:
Printable (This Page)
- + No screen time — feel more intimate
- + Physical writing aids reflection
- + Works offline, no tech needed
- + Easy to destroy for privacy
- - Manual comparison takes longer
- - No automatic results summary
Interactive Tool
- + Guided one-at-a-time flow
- + Instant results summary
- + Choose specific categories
- + 100% private — data stays on device
- - Requires a device and browser
- - Less tactile experience
Complete 71-activity checklist
Preview of what you'll get in the printable version. Click "Download PDF" above to print.
Yes / No / Maybe List
BeforeWePlay.com · 71 Activities · Rate each as Yes, Maybe, or No
Name: _________________________ Date: _________________________
Bondage & Restraint
10 activities
Wrist binding
Having wrists tied or restrained together
Ankle binding
Having ankles tied or restrained
Spread-eagle
Being restrained with limbs extended outward
Blindfold
Having vision blocked during play
Handcuffs
Using metal or padded handcuffs for restraint
Rope bondage
Decorative or functional tying with rope
Collar wearing
Wearing a collar as a symbol of submission
Leash & collar
Being led by a leash attached to a collar
Suspension bondage
Being partially or fully suspended by ropes
⚠️ Requires experienced rigger and safety knowledge
Mummification
Full body wrapping for total immobilization
Impact Play
9 activities
Spanking (hand)
Being struck on the buttocks with an open hand
Spanking (paddle)
Being struck with a paddle or flat implement
Flogging
Being struck with a multi-tailed flogger
Crop
Being struck with a riding crop
Hair pulling
Having hair firmly grasped and pulled
Biting
Being bitten firmly but without breaking skin
Slapping (face)
Light to moderate face slapping
⚠️ Discuss intensity levels and ear protection
Caning
Being struck with a thin, flexible cane
⚠️ Can leave marks — discuss limits on intensity
Whip (single tail)
Being struck with a single-tail whip
⚠️ Requires skill and practice to use safely
Power Dynamics
10 activities
Giving orders
Telling your partner what to do during play
Following orders
Obeying instructions from your partner
Begging
Pleading or asking for permission
Praise & rewards
Receiving verbal affirmation for obedience
Punishment (playful)
Lighthearted consequences for breaking rules
Service submission
Performing tasks or chores as an act of submission
Orgasm control
One partner controls when the other can climax
Name calling
Using agreed-upon degrading or affectionate terms
Kneeling
Assuming a kneeling position as a sign of submission
Protocol / etiquette
Following specific rules of behavior and address
Sensory Play
10 activities
Ice play
Using ice cubes on the body for temperature contrast
Wax play
Dripping warm (body-safe) wax on the skin
⚠️ Use only body-safe candles designed for wax play
Feather teasing
Light, ticklish sensations with feathers
Tickling
Deliberate tickling as playful torment
Scratching
Light to firm scratching with fingernails
Pinching
Pinching skin for sensation
Earplugs / sound restriction
Blocking hearing to heighten other senses
Nipple clamps
Applying clips or clamps to nipples for pressure
Wartenberg wheel
Rolling a spiky pinwheel across the skin
Electrostimulation
Using safe, low-level electrical devices for sensation
⚠️ Only use devices designed for body-safe electro play
Role Play & Fantasy
10 activities
Boss / employee
Power dynamic based on workplace authority
Teacher / student
Authority figure and obedient learner dynamic
Stranger scenario
Pretending to meet each other for the first time
Uniforms / costumes
Dressing up in specific outfits or uniforms
Royal / servant
King/Queen and their devoted attendant
Interrogation
One partner questions the other using power dynamics
Dirty talk
Using explicit verbal communication during play
Phone / text play
Engaging in role play or commands via messages
Voyeurism (consensual)
Watching or being watched during intimate acts
Exhibitionism (private)
Performing for your partner in a private setting
Psychological Play
8 activities
Tease & denial
Bringing a partner close to climax and stopping
Forced eye contact
Maintaining eye contact on command
Countdown / anticipation
Building tension through counting or timing
Gentle humiliation
Mild, consensual embarrassment during play
Rules for daily life
D/s rules that extend beyond the bedroom
Journaling / reflection
Writing about experiences as part of the dynamic
Consensual objectification
Treating a partner as a display piece (with consent)
Mind games (CNC-lite)
Light consensual non-consent or resistance play
⚠️ Requires extensive negotiation and clear safewords
Toys & Accessories
8 activities
Vibrators
Using vibrating toys during play
Butt plugs
Using anal plugs during play
Gags
Using a ball gag or other mouth restraint
Strap-on play
Using a strap-on harness and dildo
Lingerie / fetish wear
Wearing specific garments for arousal
Masks
Wearing face masks for anonymity or aesthetic
Chastity devices
Using physical devices to prevent sexual release
Spreader bars
Using bars to keep limbs apart
Aftercare & Communication
6 activities
Cuddling
Physical closeness and comfort after play
Verbal check-in
Discussing what felt good and what didn't
Water / snacks
Having drinks and food available after play
Blankets / warmth
Wrapping up in cozy blankets post-play
Quiet time together
Simply being present without conversation
Journaling together
Writing reflections together after a scene
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All data is private. This checklist is for personal use between consenting adults.
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71 activities across 8 categories. Optimized for printing on standard paper.
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Frequently asked questions
Is this PDF really free?
Yes, completely free. No email required, no hidden costs. You can download and print the checklist as many times as you want. We believe everyone deserves access to good communication tools.
How do I use the printable version?
Click the 'Download PDF' button or press Ctrl+P to print. Each partner gets their own copy to fill out independently. Circle Yes, Maybe, or No for each activity. Then compare your answers together to find mutual interests.
What's the difference between the PDF and the online tool?
The PDF is a static checklist you print and fill in by hand — great for offline use or couples who prefer pen and paper. Our interactive online tool at /bdsm/checklist/app provides a guided experience with one activity at a time, progress tracking, and a digital results summary.
Can I customize the list before printing?
The printable version includes all 71 activities across 8 categories. For a customized experience where you pick which categories to explore, try our free interactive tool instead.
Is my download tracked or stored?
No. The PDF is generated entirely in your browser. Nothing is sent to our servers. No analytics track your download, no cookies are set, and no personal information is collected.
Prefer a guided experience?
Our free interactive tool walks you through each activity one at a time, then generates a personalized results summary.
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