BDSM Boundary Checklist Builder
The modern way to communicate your interests, limits, and boundaries. Rate 71 activities as Yes, Maybe, or No — privately and anonymously.
Start Your ChecklistWhat is a boundary checklist?
A boundary checklist (also known as a "yes/no/maybe list" or "kink checklist") is a structured communication tool used by couples exploring BDSM and kink. Each partner independently rates a list of activities to clearly express their interests, curiosities, and hard limits.
Instead of relying on awkward conversations or assumptions, a boundary checklist gives both partners a concrete framework for negotiation. It removes guesswork and creates a safe foundation for exploration.
How our tool works
Pick categories
Choose from 8 categories like bondage, impact play, role play, and more.
Rate activities
Go through each activity one at a time. Rate as Yes, Maybe, or No.
Review results
Get a clear summary organized by category. Share with your partner when ready.
See it in action
Rope bondage
Being tied with rope in decorative or restrictive patterns
Yes
Maybe
No
Categories included
Bondage & Restraint
10 activities
Impact Play
9 activities
Power Dynamics
10 activities
Sensory Play
10 activities
Role Play & Fantasy
10 activities
Psychological Play
8 activities
Toys & Accessories
8 activities
Aftercare & Communication
6 activities
Frequently asked questions
What is a BDSM boundary checklist?
A BDSM boundary checklist is a structured communication tool where each partner independently rates a list of intimate activities as Yes (interested), Maybe (open to discussion), or No (hard limit). It creates a clear starting point for negotiation and ensures both partners understand each other's comfort levels.
How many activities are in the free checklist?
The checklist includes 71 activities across 8 categories: Bondage, Impact Play, Power Dynamics, Sensory Play, Role Play, Psychological Play, Toys, and Aftercare. More activities are being added regularly.
Is the checklist really anonymous?
Yes. All data is stored locally in your browser. No account is required, no data is sent to our servers, and you can delete your results at any time.
Can I share my results with my partner?
Yes! Each partner can complete the checklist independently, then compare results to find mutual interests while respecting hard limits. Only activities where both partners said Yes or Maybe are highlighted.